Bound to Relationship

Within the week, I had some conversation and discussion about relationship with my sister and TJ. Each has some serious problem with the relationship they have at present. TJ has her relation his BF (or what she called her future husbee) stuck in some point where no destination is appointed to. And as far as I got, all she wanted is only clear and distinct of what the relation took to – will it be a (happily ever after) marriage or just stand on this “status quo”? The problem arises when the BF seems very calm and just say: not even think in short glimpse of about marriage, while in the other hand, he convinced TJ that he is serious with her (doc.. in a sense of: lets be together for now and I have no idea of what will be happened next? Uhm… kinda remember me one scene of Desperate Housewife season 3?)

My sister has another problem with this lousy BF whom as my family judgments has not even a good quality of a good husbee. He has no good educational background (which luckily he passed) nor good business sense; he has no gentleman attitude who will put ladies on top of everything; he has no manner; no good grammatical and vocabulary (yes, understandable that it is really depends on your educational level); while he is really good at: Spending cash on car modifying and such things; salt water aquarium. Come on!! Depending of family wealth on 21st century is sooo not cool. So old fashioned. Own struggle instead, gives more satisfaction. Thanks God my sist has it done! She’s about to leave his lousy – old fashioned - spoiled – oxymoron BF for another prince rides white BMW S series out there.

How scary is it to be bound in relationship?

Good things of relationship:

1. You have someone who cares for you

2. You have surprise on your birthday

3. You have accompany while you’re going

4. (Great) sex

Bad – worse – worst things of relationship:

1. You have to take care of someone as well

2. You already know what kind of surprise prepared by your spouse on your birthday

3. You have no option to go with your spouse even you’re tired, bored

4. Lousy sex

5. Bad sex

6. Nightmare sex when sex still something fun for your spouse, but you think: “when will he finish…!!!”

7. You have to report everything, whom with – where – etc etc you go without your spouse

8. You can’t flirt someone cute with good full chest exactly in front of you

9. You are not allowed to go to gym!!

10. You can’t have another possible great sex(es) out there

11. You have texts come to your mobile every minutes – annoying!

12. And when no reply – there come the missed calls – more annoying!!

13. Still no reply – begin to call you office line as well – what the ****!!!

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15. . . . (add) . . .

Well.. I think my list have it enough for me to confirm that I am not kinda serious relationship wannabe guy. Hehe.. Come on, there still lots of fishes out there aren’t they? Or maybe I just afraid with my status now, which I still not confirmed yet, and just focus with my career at present? Will the relationship last? What does the expectation? What if boredom syndrome came up? What if more dislike list made to the spouse? What if you have it enough to your spouse? What if as the time goes by, either you or your spouse find someone who is “click”er with? How to say goodbye?

Along my journey, I have recorded some guys for ONS, other become my sex buddies, and two relationships. When I am bounded into my first relationship: I was so much in love, but come the crazy thought from him to bound the relationship in papers, on the confirmed legal notice with witnesses – was he out of his mind!!! – and even he was trying to seek out the information about gay marriage on the internet, - what the **** did he thought about!!!!. I am not that open guy about my unconfirmed sexuality and he kept pushing me with those F***ing things? It was my luck that he caught cheated on me so I had good reason to break him up. The other “serious” relationship I had posted on “Psycho”. At present I have no plan seek for someone for any possible status mentioned above..

Hints: being single is a blessing since you can do almost everything you want without someone’s approval, you can just hang out everywhere, anytime, whoever with, whatever you do. Living you life is always choice, being single is as choice made. Just relax the territory you can own the whole piece, without none to shared with. Now..
How can I resist to be single and fabulous? =)